tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post4649537339973797558..comments2024-01-05T06:26:08.625-06:00Comments on SMOKIE SAYS: A Few Questions for Chris Brown SupportersD C Cainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17598048435166864256noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-85669545291173235612009-02-19T10:54:00.000-06:002009-02-19T10:54:00.000-06:00I don't know enough about this situation to speak ...I don't know enough about this situation to speak specifically on it. I just know about my own personal history and generally speaking. <BR/><BR/>My mother was hit repeatedly by my father when I was a child. They are still married going on 29 years. And nowadays, she defends him. It's a psychological thing and it's not as simple as saying the abused should walk away and the abuser should stop. Not simple at all.<BR/><BR/>That being the case, simple biological difference say men should not hit women under any circumstance. Yes, some women are bigger than men but 9 times out of 10, the blow a man delivers will inflict more damage than any blow a woman would deliver. Real men show emotional self-control and discipline and walk away. For women, our strength lies elsewhere (I tend to think men win in the brute strength department but women win in the enduring strength department). <BR/><BR/>Furthermore, a woman is a woman and not a child. In a grown up relationship, there is no such thing as "she was acting unruly so I up and hit her". Just no such thing.The Original Wombmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08635150040219983526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-68465737721818261732009-02-18T00:06:00.000-06:002009-02-18T00:06:00.000-06:00This is the same mentality that allowed R Kelly to...This is the same mentality that allowed R Kelly to go free. Let's remember that everyone was so quick to blame the little "hot tailed girl" but no one felt like he had a greater responsibility being the adult. None of her paid off family members would come forward to testify. Black women will never get respect in this world until we learn to love and respect one another.Beautifully Complexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13702193276858609494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-16217275441923138302009-02-17T14:45:00.000-06:002009-02-17T14:45:00.000-06:00Lol well I guess its one of those things I'll neve...Lol well I guess its one of those things I'll never understand then.<BR/><BR/>I've been involved in helping out so many friends that were in abusive situations,and then to only to find out them bishes were back together with the fool that put his foot up their a$$...<BR/><BR/><BR/>And yes SMOKIE yes I do want to hear the facts via CB and RhiMillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06071834692363269827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-77624128949684912492009-02-17T14:21:00.000-06:002009-02-17T14:21:00.000-06:00Milly, I don't understand why they go back either....Milly, I don't understand why they go back either. I think it's just something that you can't understand unless you are in it. Kinda like being a murderer.... How could they kill? lol<BR/><BR/>I'll be glad when we hear all the facts re: CB and Rihanna!D C Cainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17598048435166864256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-90786559519301349002009-02-17T14:18:00.000-06:002009-02-17T14:18:00.000-06:00And I never understood for the life of me why the ...And I never understood for the life of me why the abused keep going back to their mates...<BR/><BR/>I've witnessed this with close friends and family members and I just dont get it, maybe someone who's been there can shed some light on that for meMillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06071834692363269827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-32868613365116916312009-02-17T14:14:00.000-06:002009-02-17T14:14:00.000-06:00I dont know if I agree with you on this one or com...I dont know if I agree with you on this one or completly, everything I've heard so far is speculation, that is of course with the exception of his aunt speaking out.<BR/><BR/>I havent seen a police report, I havent seen a picture of Rhianna's 'horrific' bruises, I haven't seen a full picture of Chris to see if he was hit upside his head with a blackberry,all I have right now is speculations of what everybody thinks happened and why they think it happened.<BR/><BR/>I'm not going to jump on anyone's side, I am however going to reserve my judgement until I get the full facts...I only do this mainly because I come from a crazy family of women that believe its okay to hit a man upside his head with a 1.vase 2. a big rock 3. glass bottles and ect. And honestly YES I am one of those women that believe if you put your hands on someone (anyone, man or woman) expect to catch some licks. Do I think its right for a MAN TO HIT A WOMAN, NO I DONT, but it should be vice versa.Millyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06071834692363269827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-84476403840175597142009-02-17T13:46:00.000-06:002009-02-17T13:46:00.000-06:00I feel a man should never put his hands on a women...I feel a man should never put his hands on a women. Never Ever. Just walk away. Even if she is all in his face finger and all. If she is hitting on you or acting all crazy then push her ass down and keep it moving. Never let it get to the point where you have to cause bruises to her face or bite marks. <BR/><BR/>I must also say that I read the speculation that this is not the first time he has put her hands on her. If that statement is true then the incident that took place that morning is Rhianna's fault. Because as the saying goes if he hits you once, hes gonna hit you again.I have delt with friends in abusive realatoinships that they just keep going back to. I have left those females alone. It alludes me and makes me angry that females would want to stay with someone who verbally, physically, or mentally, abuses you? You must love yourself first and know that no human being on this earth is worth losing your self to. I must also say that if that statement is not true and it is the first time. I hope they both get help. I hope she doesnt resume a relationship with him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-39324642304353345802009-02-16T16:39:00.000-06:002009-02-16T16:39:00.000-06:00I was young and crazy too. I had my share of scuff...I was young and crazy too. I had my share of scuffles at the hands of boys who didn't know how to handle a feisty woman without getting physical. Yeah, I got hit for TALKING reckless -- and I immediately filed charges. I don't know about other woman, but a man's fists HURT and I did not want to ever feel that again. I learned a lesson and he learned a bigger one. I've also had a guy to push the heck out of me when I wanted to act crazy and throw my little hands at him. I got the point. He didn't have to just whip my butt for me to understand.D C Cainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17598048435166864256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-54234607234137001352009-02-16T16:27:00.000-06:002009-02-16T16:27:00.000-06:00These are not kids, just not adults. When I was yo...These are not kids, just not adults. When I was younger I got into a lot of heated arguements and some went physical. To me, it's just the nature of being young, energetic, and emotional.<BR/><BR/>My mother didn't just sit me down and explain how to handle myself in different situations....how to sell your point, how to re-reel-in a lost love by words, how to handle a cheating man. So some lessons came hard learned, some not so. just living helps you to read people, and that slight knowledge helps you know how much of yourself to give.<BR/><BR/>I can't fully agree with you yet Smoke, because that statement was bull. I really want Chris vindicated. I don't like Rihanna - never did, and I don't want her tarnishing his promising future. said it.<BR/><BR/>You're right, I can't begin to imagine her trying to fight a man hell-bent on bashing her head in, so I won't. I'd rather just state I am a fan of Chris' and leave it at that. <BR/><BR/>I will, however, chunk the duece to Chris if he punched her balled fist or tried to hurt her. no excuses. it's bubblegum music anyway, I can live without Chris brown.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12228127412211553563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26216847.post-4772136434973769172009-02-16T15:42:00.000-06:002009-02-16T15:42:00.000-06:00amen, hard pill to swallow in our community..but w...amen, hard pill to swallow in our community..but we are still in denial that we do many of the things you just listed.Saved Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04773420980876511545noreply@blogger.com