Tuesday, November 10, 2009


All of my dating life I carried around a little word in my head. That word was NEXT!

To explain what Next! really means, it is a concept that comes from within a secure, confident woman who has a reason to be confident. Her confidence is not false or overbearing, but pleasant and assured. She's spent time working on herself and she’s pretty sure that her baggage is light.

She nurtures her spiritual health, her mental health, her emotional health, her PHYSICAL health, and her financial health.

When this woman meets a man, she goes out on a date or two and she listens to ALL of her womanly instincts. She doesn’t just listen to the desperation that chimes from her soul. No, she acknowledges those uncomfortable warning signals as well because this is the best time to face them. This is the time before she falls and it is the easiest time to tell a man NEXT! if he is not on her mental, emotional, or spiritual level. There are a lot of men in the world, and she does not suffer with someone who doesn’t deserve her. She is not delusional about her worth. Nor is she in denial about her faults. The Universe has supplied THIS WOMAN with a nice number of the male species to comfortably pick and choose from.

Please do not think that because you weren't born the prettiest baby... or because you can’t solve a calculus equation... that you won’t be able to pick and choose your man. The truth is that grown men ultimately choose a woman for how well she takes care of herself (beyond being a shopaholic), how well she takes care of him, how easy she is to get along with, and how she makes him feel. Period. If she has some outstanding bonus (cooking, singing, writing, leading, being a peace maker, etc.), that’s only icing on the cake.

Men are simple creatures. When you become a better woman, a better man will find you. When a woman lives her life in a way that reflects a better woman, this not only strengthens her self image, but her REALISTIC, not boastful, self love will shine and virtually blind a good man into submission.

(Copyright 2009)

1 comment:

  1. Yes, yes, yes. Thanks for this Smokie. I have a few good women I need to send this to.


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