Be Easy, Ladies

I wanted to add a comment to this post, but no new comments are allowed…so *bright idea!* -- I’ll just create a post in my own blog. It’s a pretty interesting topic.

Guest poster, cjames laments about black women and ends the post with:

So let me help you out ladies. Do you know what men want? We want truth in advertising. Do you want to know why hoochie chicks get a lot of attention? It’s not because we get to preview the goods, it’s more that we respect that they are letting us know up front what they are about.

Immediately the commenters jump on him, defensively reprimanding the man for using generalities (all, every, etc.) in his ponderings about women.

What's up, ladies? Can’t a brotha speak his mind without all that? Intelligent discussion is fine and even encouraged but why do we have to take over the conversation, twist it, get defensive about it, and don’t even address the man’s concerns? I mean, why are we lying like a lot of women don’t pass up good men for losers? Why are we pretending like some women don't put up fronts, deceive, and use men? Sure, men play a part, but what is so wrong with addressing the man's concerns without attacking him? You can get your point across later.

Why do we get so defensive when black men share their frustrations about dating us? Why don’t we WOMAN UP and search for solutions instead of deepening the trench between us?

The black man needs his turn to vent, too. And we owe a reasonable response to the brothas who care enough to share. Just like we have valid complaints about men — whatever those complaints are and there are many—and we expect them to listen to us and respond positively to our frustrations, they want the same thing in return. In fact, quiet as it’s kept, the male needs that attention even more than we do. They're physically strong, but emotionally weak. We are typically just the opposite.

So ladies, give the fellas a break. Stroke their egos. Help the flawed and frustrated good man find peace. Listen to his gripes. Stop being so hard on the good ones and so easy on the bad ones. Acknowledge your wrong in this great divide because you do bear some blame. Soften up. Laugh more. Forgive more. Pick the right ones more. Be the right one more.

Election Night STUFF

Q Deezy of Big Boy’s Neighborhood at Will and Jada's crib for the Election Party.

The World is Behind Obama

World Leaders Hail Obama Triumph

American's Reactions in Pictures

Slide Show of Obama Headlines


Obama's Victory Speech

Random Thoughts About the Election

We better get our acts together. Obama is doing his part. We need to step up.

I'm still in some shock.

Who cares about Michelle's dress? She's fine in ev-er-y thing.

Thank you God for giving me a reason to almost like my husband Barry's name.

It was Obama's African wisdom that kept him so cool and told him exactly how to handle each situation. To think, I almost attributed this to his white side. No, he's an African King...

Did Obama and Michelle have the best sex ever last night?

Everything Obama does is fast and efficient. He came on the scene in a whirlwind - came from behind and whipped McCain hard and swift with 338 + electoral votes - became the first Black President of the United States. It gets absolutely no higher than this. He's above Oprah.

McCain went from in-the-news-every day to complete insignificance in under 2 hours.

This election proves one thing: you DO have to be better and smarter to succeed as a black man.

As much as I love them, the rappers don't seem quite as great as Obama.

Can you believe the United States of America chose an African American family man named Barack HUSSEIN Obama? Yes, we can say his whole name with pride now. HUSSEIN HUSSEIN HUSSEIN.

For the first time in my life, I wish I was going to a black owned establishment tomorrow.

It almost seems sinful not to hang up Obama stuff in the office.

I just knew that if Black women could put Tyler Perry at the #1 spot in the box office, black women and every other reasonable minded American could vote Obama into office.

Imagine what the slaves must be thinking now.

Finally! We've done something MLK can be proud of.

What does this mean? What does this mean? Will racism really drop? HAS racism really dropped? Will Obama be in the top 3 best president's list? Will all Michelle's relatives stop by the White House on a regular basis? Will the media continue to cover Barrack like he's a movie star? Will Obama stay strong in the face of many temptations? Will he help Black people? South Africans?

Am I dreaming?

Waiting to Exhale

We're only 24 hours from the possible first African American president.

I think about the magnitude of "what if?" and and my eyes well up. I start humming, "Never would have maaade it", but then I stop myself. I can't give into the fullness of the emotion that simmers right above an emotion that I've never felt before. I can't define this emotion because I won't let myself go there just yet — but, whatever this is, it's directly related to the fact that we may possibly see history with the first Black President of these great United States of America.

So this what white people feel like when they think of their country and their American President?

So, I'm overwhelmed with pre-emotion. I fully expect to wail, play Marvin Sapp's song, drop to my knees praising God, and otherwise just act a natural black thankful fool. I haven't anticipated "tomorrow" this much since I still believed in Santa Claus.

We are thisclose to break dancing with happiness. Thisclose to weeping tears of joy and FINALLY! thisclose to feeling as much pride as one can feel in someone not their parent, self, or child. Oh yeah, we are about to be some happy, whistling, chest poked out folk for a minute. Hopefully, after we get through poppin bottles, we can get our own -ish together.

But, first, I just want to exhale. I'm ready to KNOW it's going to be....

Obama/Biden '08