Monday, March 23, 2009
Courtship Pt. 1: How Long?
I've noticed that men aren't vague when they seriously want to be with a woman. I think that when they want you, they try to lock you down ASAP. That goes for the players as well as the non-players. The employed and unemployed. The good and bad.
The lead-up to Exclusivity usually goes something like this:
1 - Meet
2 - Date for about a month (no sex involved)
3 - Talk often, see each other often
4 - Then bam! anywhere from 2 weeks - 3 months later, he says one of these 5 things:
-- When are you going to be my woman?
-- You know we're a couple right?
-- I don't want you to see anybody else...and I don't want to see anybody else, either.
-- I'm falling in love with you...I want to be your man...
-- You got me, I don't want anybody else. I want us to be exclusive/exclusive.
-- Will you GO WITH ME?
The last one is usually spoken by the ever-so-playful man -- but he's serious and he soon makes it known that he is NOT joking.
Some people think it takes longer than 3 months to get to that point. But, if I'm still communicating with a man on a daily basis after 3 months he must be a good guy or one hell of an impostor. By the time 3 months rolls around, it's either ON or OFF. Not because I have some 3-month deadline, but because by that time he's probably tired of waiting on me to give up the Good Girl (LOL).
Then again, maybe because I'm a nurturing, yet elusive Cancer female, I attract sensitive guys who want to be in committed relationships...?
Women, how long do you "talk" to a guy before it gets serious? Why?
Men, how long do you "talk" to a woman before you want it to get serious? Why?